My Friends, for Life

Next week I’m going to turn another year older. Just a few years ago, this would have given me nightmares. But now I’m jumping up and down because another year has passed and here I am. So today, I don’t want to talk about all the pain I’m in. I want to talk about all the terrific friendships I have. All that I have to be fortunate for, because, crazy as it seems, I have so much.

So let me tell you all about my awesome friend Michelle. You know, the friend that you have known forever. No matter how many people may come in and out of my life, she is my constant, she is “the” friend. Michelle moved in next door when I was 7 and we have been friends ever since. Michelle doesn’t live next door anymore, so there are some long gaps between seeing or talking to each other, but she’s that friend where none of that matters. It’s like no time passes when we get together. I like to think of Michelle as not only my smart friend but the one who knows me the best. We grew up together. She’s my sister and I love her. She’s become such a strong woman, a great mother and my best friend forever. I’d like those who may read this to know that I don’t file a post without running it by Michelle. She is special, she’s talented, she’s kind, caring and my life is better because she’s in it!!!!

My local “posse” is pretty cool, too. My friend Patty I’ve known since we met at a Gymboree class when our first children were 3 months old. I liked her right away. Sometimes you just get that instant feeling. She smiled at me and I knew we would be friends forever … and we have been. We have raised our children together, we lost her mother together and now she supports me through all my struggles. She’s the one who ran my daughter’s birthday party when I was in the hospital, she’s the one who would drop off food when we would come home from a long day of hospital tests, and she’s the one who bought me my favorite sweater when I lost my breasts and was so ashamed. Patty ROCKS!

I can’t talk about my friends without talking about my David. He is my warm-hearted friend. He gets me. He’s so nurturing and so aware of my feelings and thoughts. He knows my needs before I do. I like to think of David as my gentle lion. When I couldn’t talk, when I couldn’t breathe, he held everyone at bay for me. He fights for me and holds my hand at the same time. He is such an extraordinary man, and I am so lucky to have him as my friend. He would do anything for me, and I for him. I’m never letting David go. He put on high heels for me and my heart belonged to him forever.

My friend Robyn lived here for  just a short time but it was enough to make me a Robyn fan for life. Robyn is so kind and insightful. She can say something in four words that others would say in 10. I truly admire Robyn. She also happens to be married to one of my heroes, a doctor who saved me a lifetime of pain and suffering. Robyn has opened her heart to me and has never let go. I adore Robyn! She is beauty within. She shines, and I’m so lucky to be in her light.

Julie, Jill, Rebecca, Elizabeth, Wendy, Amy, Kathy, Tracey and so many more friends to talk about. These girls set up a meal lineup for me that lasted a whole year. They call me, check on me constantly and breathe life into me, which all keeps me smiling and grateful for their friendships. They take my kids to soccer and call them for sleepovers when I need it most. I’m so blessed with so many people that care about me. I’m here today because of all my wonderful friendships.

Someday I’ll have to go into detail about my unbelievable family, but today was about friendships. I have a difficult time believing that there is a luckier person on this earth than I am. I would have had these relationships regardless of cancer, but cancer has opened my eyes to the depths of my relationships and the beauty of my life. I’m another year older and, damn, I get to live it with the the most wonderful support group ever!!

7 comments

  1. Best party to run will be the wedding of Bella and Sammy – now that will be a party – NO DOUBT! True love that you and I have laughed and laughed and laughed over.
    Patty

    1. Bella will be the luckiest girl to have you for a mother in-law and Sammy on her arm. Regardless, I know I can count on you and Sammy to always look out for her. Love you, viki

  2. My dearest Viki— you are our sunlight and we are lucky to have you shine upon us with your love and friendship. Jim and i both have learned so much from you and Jere this past year and we are so thankful each day for all of our friendships. You have taught me so much and helped me to prioritize what is truly important in life. Thank you for the gift of your time today. I cherish it. love u always, Julie Beth

  3. Viki,
    I remember talking about your blog at Lauren Kusic’s Bat Mitzvah. I finally checked it out and love it. You are so wonderful to put your story out there. You really are an inspiration.
    Love you!
    Elizabeth

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