Life, Cancer and the Hamster Wheel


Just when you think life is starting to calm down as much as life can calm down with Stage 4 cancer, something throws you another challenge, just to see if you’re paying attention. Isn’t that Murphy’s Law … anything that can go wrong will?? Well that seems to be my life now … and maybe always has been, even before cancer. Here’s how the latest Murphy’s Law episode goes:

A couple of months ago, I’m finally starting to feel better, I’m walking up to a mile-and-a-half a day and getting organized for my son’s Bar Mitzvah. Then — bam! — my oncologist tells me I have chronic tonsillitis and it’s affecting my immune system. They gotta go, he says. Are you kidding me????!!!!!!!!

So here I sit today, recovering from yet another surgery. What a difficult procedure this was. The pain … oh my. Sometimes I feel like a hamster on one of those wheels and I just go round and around and get absolutely nowhere. Frustration is what I feel the most. I have so much to do. My children started school, and here’s yet another year that I’m missing their open houses and missing more soccer games. Boy does this get old fast!

Now, if I choose to look at the situation differently, I could say this has been the best diet I’ve ever had. Holy cow, even if I wanted to eat … it hurts. How cool is that??!!! My son’s bar mitzvah might not be organized and I might not be able to speak to anyone during the event but, damn, I’m gonna look good! I think I’m gonna have to have my dress altered. How screwed up is that thinking??

Well, screwed up or not, I’m looking forward to getting out of this bed and back to my active life. Getting back on that hamster wheel until the next bump knocks me off … then I’ll get back on and start all over again. Because that’s my life now, and I need to go with the flow. It doesn’t necessarily make it easier to understand, or always seem fair, but I’m lucky that I’m strong and tenacious enough to keep getting on the wheel.


  1. Congratulations on this very meaningful event for your son ! That is just fantastic ! As for you Viki – all I can say is ‘you go girl’ ! It takes far more than some tonsils to get you down !

  2. Just remember- a wheel is round- and it goes round and round. You will not fall off- There will be bumps- but no falls for you. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Love from me.

  3. You have done CHEMO this Tonsil thing is nothing is no big deal. I have mine removed when I was in my late 30s and it was a piece of ice cream. I always tell everyone I have done chemo it makes me bullet proof.

    1. Oh Jaimie, you are so funny. I’m not feeling very bullet proof right now! I can’t even eat ice cream it’s too cold and too sweet on my throat. That’s what’s so funny. But of course you are right… this is just another bump in the road. You rock!! vki

  4. Dottie, I’m so glad to hear from you. I’m sorry we haven’t spoken more but talking been something that’s been tough the last 3 weeks and counting. I hope to catch up soon!! I’m so glad to hear you are back in the USA!!! Love you, viki

  5. Viki –

    Try jello – works better than ice cream. Chocolate pudding too – and put on the whipped cream – you deserve it.

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